While the vanilla wannabe Dom is fantasizing about forcing a sub to do things for him and accept things from him, the genuine and experienced Dom is thinking about how to be worthy of ever greater devotion and a growing desire to please on the part of his submissive. The wannabe wants to force, the Dom wants to entice.
~ For The Love of a Submissive
From the essay "Dominance and Submission - Life on it’s Ear?"
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